(I know there’s a movie out with this title right now, but don’t worry, I’m not going to do a movie review! It was a cute movie though…we saw it, and a few others when my mother was visiting!)
I’ve just been thinking about this concept lately, sparked partly by seeing the movie, but mostly by things happening in my life recently. So I’m wondering…can happiness be persued and…”caught?” Personally, I don’t believe so. I am most happy in my life when I am living honestly - with myself, my Lord, and others - and when I take time to enjoy simple moments. When this becomes the focus of my life, happiness becomes…well, almost like a by-product. Something that flows out of me, instead of being possesed by me.
So, here’s the thing…I wanted to dispell the myth right now that I’m hoping for a girl (I’ve been asked this way to many times already!), and will be dissapointed with a boy. I would love to have another boy! And I don’t believe for a second that having a girl will make me happy.
I did. For a long time I did. I believed that the “perfect” family was one boy, and one girl. And this lie still tries to sneak it’s way into my head. I can’t tell you how many people (christian people too!) with the “perfect” family, have said to me – with a look of pity – “We just got lucky, and had a boy and a girl right away.” And I’m left wondering, “So, you think I’m terribly unlucky?”
No way! I love my three boys immensely, and I am beyond lucky, I am blessed! They’re amazing, and it’s exciting to imagine the men that they will become someday. I love applauding their stregnths, guiding them through their weaknesses, and watching them learn about life. There is happiness in this! (And by the way, luck has nothing to do with the sex of our children – I know my children have been hand-picked by the Lord for our family!)
OK, I’m done. I’m definately an introvert…an inward processor, and I rarely share such thoughts with people. I hope I’ve made you think…and if I haven’t, then at least you’ll be one less person that will ask me, “You must be hoping for a girl?”
